I Don’t Want to Grow Up

By Pastor Brady Wolcott


Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, Ephesians 4:15.


Do you remember that old Toys R Us commercial with the kids playing with toys and singing “I don’t want to grow up I’m a Toys R Us kid?”


Sometimes it seems like this is our theme song as the church. We are adverse to growing spiritually. And my question is why? 


“I don’t want to grow up ‘cause baby if I did…the pastor might ask me to disciple someone else.”


“I don’t want to grow up ‘cause baby if I did…I might have to lead a ministry…or stop hiding…or have people expect things of me… I’d have to get out of my comfort zone.”


Ephesians 4:15 is our Fighter Verse this week. But you have to read 4:14 to see the contrast that Paul is making.

so that we may no longer be children, tossed to and fro by the waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by human cunning, by craftiness in deceitful schemes. Ephesians 4:14.


Paul is saying don’t be children. Grow up.


The aim of all discipleship is spiritual growth. So let me ask you a serious question. Do you want to grow up, or are you spiritually singing the “Toys R Us Kid” song?


Notice what Paul says in our verse- we are growing up into him who is our Head, Christ Jesus. The aim of discipleship and spiritual growth is NOT to complete a program, or to go to church more, or to even read your Bible more. The aim of discipleship is the glory of God through the worship of Christ “in every way” as we become more and more like Christ, through his indwelling life. Yes programs, church, and Bible reading can help bring about growth into Christ, but they are not the aim. The fullness of Christ is the aim.


He is the head. We are the body. We share a life. We depend on him as head just as your arms and legs depend on your head for life and everything.


Honestly evaluate your mind and heart. What keeps you from wanting to grow up? Confess this to God. Trust Christ to use you, even in your weakness (especially in your weakness) to be a disciple maker. Ask the Spirit to show you ways that you are still failing to live sacrificially as Christ. Understand and trust in your union with Christ as your Head. Present your life to God for the glory of Christ. Get equipped. And make disciples as you go through life.